What causes someone to latch on to a particular passion is a question that I’ve been curious about for many years. Unfortunately without much success.

Why is it that some people fall in love with the piano the first time they sit down and play a note, and some people have to take lessons for a couple of years before they discover that they really love it? And some people just absolutely hate it, no matter what?

Sometimes we aren’t able to pursue our passion, and sometimes we just haven’t found it yet, as you describe. In those cases, my philosophy has always been to become the best I can at whatever it is I am doing. It may not be a passionate expertise, but it can still be worthwhile.

Maybe not marry Mr. Good Enough, but at least move in with him.

You said something important here: “if you’ve found something you love.” What if you haven’t? Do you keeping looking for the thing you love, or do you pursue expertise in an area that doesn’t make your heart pound, hoping that as you grow to know it you will also grow to love it?

Do you wait for Mr. Right? Or do you marry Mr. Good Enough?

I’m leaning toward Mr. Good Enough (not literally, you understand, I married Mr. Right almost 17 yrs ago). I don’t think you can know if you love something until you give it a good shot. I’m operating as if I love the thing, and we’ll see if it works out in the end, when I really know it well.

Thanks for the very nice link and quote. I appreciate it!